Old Marriage vs. Twin Flame Love

 

What a time of transition we go through right now, transcending beyond old ways of togetherness.

If we look at the old marriage, there is one word describing so many relationships; control and the power of control, build upon solar plexus energy, vibrating on lower frequency of emotions.

A man and a woman meet with each other, marry, then you would believe, that the best foundation for love has been made, you would believe, that they would live happily ever after, some do, many do not.

Instead they build up ties with each other, they create dependency, addiction, obsession, ties are unhealthy for love to grow and flow.

Often finding more pleasure in buying things, than sharing Love.

There is often a struggle of power between the two of them, the ego desire for control, so instead of loving each other, they keep each other tied up in control, and love dies; control relationships are never build upon love, but upon dependency; the fear of being alone, not being loved, the belief that you are made whole by another human being.

Typically control matter is money; one of them holds the power over the other one, through money.

We know of the rich man marrying a younger woman, they both give each other outer power, he gives her status, she gives him masculine self-worth; as women have now become financial independent, they adopt the cultural status of men, marrying a young man and the scene is vice versa, still to my opinion imbalanced.

Another subject for control is sex, women often use sexual control to hold a man in power of ego desire; when he does certain things for her, she will allow for sexual pleasure; so unhealthy for love to flow.

Now we move from solar plexus emotion into deep feelings of the heart; we meet with Twin Flame Love.

When we meet, we still have the old baggage of control issues with us, we still remember our old ways of relationship, so of course we cannot change our ways of behavior over night, it is a process, in this process be a little gentle with yourself..and your Twin.

In the beginning of Twin Flame love, projection is used, which means one Twin see in the other faults, and believe these faults belong to the other one, while all the time it belongs to her/himself, and can never be described as faults....

Realizing this is an important step towards wholeness.

In meeting with your Twin Flame you will use, what you have learned in your old relationship, which is control, trying to hold control over the other one, checking up on the other one, being jealous, setting rules; all of the old ways will come to the surface to be cleared away.

That is why your Divine Guides give you separation times, to clear the old control baggage, clear the old lower ego emotions away; so treasure your separation times, for they are a true gift for both you and your Twin; do not feel sad, do not cry, do not cling to the other one, let the other one grow, give space for true love to grow.

In these separation times many seek a soul mate relationship, which I personally do not favor, for there is a risk, that you just transfer your old ways, instead of dissolving them and carry on with the control game of power; I know of course, that some also grow in soul mate relationships.

I believe that we have chosen times of solitude to grow into oneness with God in ourselves, for then we can share oneness in God with our Twin, being complete and whole; there is nothing wrong with being alone, for you do not have to feel lonely, you can in fact feel very happy and complete being with yourself, for you learn to love every aspect of yourself.

Your purpose is to meet with your Twin Flame, and many do, but it is also for your completeness, for in your completeness you can smelt into Divine Oneness with your inner Twin.. and then meet physically with your Twin Love and share the most amazing love story ever told in time.

Be happy for your blessed Twin Flame journey, look at yourself without judgment, love and embrace yourself, understand the process of leaving behind solar plexus emotions, surrender to your Sacred Heart.

In this process you are never alone, for your Twin Flame is always there is your heart to embrace and love you with Divine Love.

And notice, that you can never really be angry with your Twin Flame Love, no matter what happens, for the relationship is build upon pure love .. and it is not something bad, if your Twin Flame also loves others.

~ With Love

Birgita Andersen

Pain Wears You

 

She's tired of being strong.. doing it all, all of the time.

As a child she survived her mother and brother.

She’s still haunted by the screams of her mother cursing her.

She still dreams of her brother’s ghost coming after her in the house that gave her so much pain.

Her broken pieces are in the night shadows and behind the walls of her childhood bedroom.

The memories of all the wars fought in that house followed her when she left.

Escape was the plan.

But you can't escape from the wounds.. they follow you.

You can't pack them away and place them in storage for safe keeping.

Your pain wears you.

She figured this out right away.

From the music she picked to the overstated black wardrobe she admired.

She wore pain beautifully.. tattooed her story on unseen parts of her body.

She believed her story had purpose.. served her on her path.

Anyone who met her for the first time could feel her darkness and see the light hidden behind her eyes.. a mixture of safety and danger.

She didn't make friends easily.. yet everyone liked her.

They came to her for guidance.. for clarity and answers to the unknown.

Helping others fed her need to be needed.

It also made her felt seen.

She's grown now.. grown into a courageous, strong woman, but she's tired of carrying her pain.

Tired of feeling tied to it.

Tired of feeling no one really sees her.. like her true self is hiding in the shadows.. still that small, vulnerable girl that just wanted someone to love her, to hold her, to validate her worth.

She struggles everyday with loving herself but she's trying, not giving up.

If her pain has taught her anything, it's defined her immeasurable ability to withstand anything that life gives her.

It’s her armor.. her beauty.. her powerful declaration to the world, I Can Take Whatever Shit You Give Me!

Lavender and Peppermint Tea

 

i love the smell

of lavender on my skin

the feel of the noon sun

warming my insides

the taste of hot

peppermint tea

soothing my

cravings for a peaceful

state of mind

it's the simple things

that bring comfort

to my soul

and remind me

that loving myself

should always come first

A Letter to my Reader: One Hell of a Ride!

 

Dear Reader,

  Recently I have been sharing dreams and synchronicities I have had with my twin flame over the years with you. I hope that my own experiences can shed some light on the complexity of the twin flame relationship. For me, it's been one hell of a ride! I've had two decades to process it and have come to a greater understanding of the nature of God and the universe we live in.

   I experience my twin flame energetically. This is not a physical relationship and never has been. I want to make this very clear because there is something to this whole chastity thing that religions talk about, that nuns and monks live by and vow. I don't take the twin flame label lightly. Until you have suffered greatly, and felt like you've gone completely mad, experienced the Dark Night of the Soul, and awakened the Kundalini, then and only then, will you know what it means to be a twin flame. 

   Twin flames raise the vibration of the collective consciousness. Upon meeting, twin flames remember their 5D connection. It vibrates through their whole system. Since the connection is energetic, twin flames communicate through dreams, synchronicities, and telepathy. When together, they vibrate at a higher frequency and have access to the higher realms. There's pain when in separation until they process it and remember their divinity. The purpose of the twin flame relationship is to uplift humanity, break down social norms, and reshape the human mind due to conditioning. Twin flames teach us new ways to love and open us up to higher realms. 

  If you are on a twin flame journey, you're in for a ride! You're not alone. I assure you. Keep your heart open. Keep your mind open. And most importantly give forgiveness to your twin. Your twin flame is going to piss you off. They are going to run and betray you. They are going to bring out all your defects so you can grow and evolve in your humanity. This is a good thing. And one last message that I heard recently and really resonated with me is this, Your light belongs to the World, not you.

XX Madison

An Unharboured Love

 

there is no woman quite like her

she is a subtle wind

and a quiet thought

she'll whisper with her soul

to you in your dreams

and it's there you'll

know her spirit

it's there you'll be forced

to see your own nakedness

you'll know exactly what you are

you'll know exactly how her love

undresses you

as her eyes reflect back

an unharboured, passionate love

she'll abandon all other lovers

to be with the one that's meant for her

but she won't wait for you to choose

she'll be fine without you

she'll keep moving forward in life

and doing so without ever looking back

Catching Feelings with the Right One

 

in your forties

you have to be more careful

who you catch feelings with

you're at a place

in your life

where your time is valuable

and you know exactly

what you want and don't want

you've lived long enough

to know when someone

is full of it

and what's important to you

has changed drastically

since you've been married

divorced

and raising kids on your own

you want security

you want an authentic masculine

capable of nurturing your femininity

and mature enough to communicate

his needs

women like us

have had our fair share of boys

now it's a man we want

who really captures our heart

mind and soul

The Door to a New Dimensions

i remember the days

of fighting for peace and happiness 

wondering why does everyday

have to be a struggle

when you remove yourself 

from toxic people

toxic environments

it's amazing

how much better you feel

you realize just how closed

your chakras were

how your emotional body

was doing everything it could

to protect you 

it's like living in a place

that never gets sun and always rains

then one day the sun appears

and you are amazed

at its presence 

and how awesome you feel

this is what i've struggled with 

my whole life

believing i had to put up with negativity

when all i had to do was remove myself 

you can grow accustom to the dark 

and fear change 

facing your fears

opens doors

leading to new dimensions of life 

you never thought possible

take the first step

to free yourself

and the sun will greet you

i know 

because once i stepped

into the light

it illuminated

the darkness around me 

and everything

suddenly became possible 

All A Girl Wants

 

Some days my spirit is heavy.

I'll be thinking about all my failures and burdens, and sadness suddenly hits me.

I'm a good woman.

I've tried to make good decisions and live a life of integrity.

I've had to learn the hard way that people will take advantage of your goodness.

It saddens me now that I'm middle-aged and trust people less, question their motives, and feel I have to keep my guard up.

But if someone really wants to be a part of my life they'll understand.

They'll stick around because they'll see my heart and my worth.

They won't be turned off by my rough edges.

They'll see the softness behind my eyes and they'll know that I'm the kind of woman that will always have your back if you treat me right.

That's all a girl wants.. is to be treated right.