The Effects of Cancel Culture

When you are confident secure and sovereign in your truth, your knowingness,  you will not be threatened or insecure by anyone else’s truth.

Turning your back on someone, canceling someone, bullying, name calling, belittling are all behaviors stemming from trauma, programming and deep insecurity.

It’s a response from someone that is threatened by another’s truth.

When you are solid, sovereign, aligned and at peace with your truth, I promise you, the above behaviors will never resonate with you. You just won’t do them.

Confidence in who you are and what you believe breeds compassion and empathy for any other truth outside of yours.

You don’t have to accept it, obviously, but you can be the sovereign human you incarnated as and allow free will and diversity to exist amongst you.

Pay attention to divisive behavior disguised as honor. Anything that pulls humanity apart creating segregation is part of the problem not the solution.

We are here to rise above division. Cancel culture is division in the most deceptive way.

We aren’t here to cancel anyone. We are here to allow our hearts to remind us that this game we are playing is designed to be beat. We will see through the illusion of separation and eventually remember we have always been unified.

Do not forget, this is the evolution in our human consciousness. This is not physical but energetic. Playing in the illusion of separation and divide is only perpetuating the collective shadow.

Stay in your heart.

CANCEL CULTURE

Is Insecurity, Trauma, And Programming

Disguised As Confidence And Righteousness.

- Lorie Ladd 

The Wildfire of Divorce

 

I don't feel guilty about building a life for myself after divorce.

I feel guilty about not doing it sooner.

My accomplishments have been painstakingly executed in such a way that I don't wish my road on even my worst enemy.

I fought for happiness.

I fought for peace and sacrificed everything to get where I'm at today.

Life has been like a wildfire for me..

burning away everything that no longer serves me..

leaving only ashes to remind me how things are constantly being transformed.

We don't always know why we have to struggle so much and endure unfathomable amounts of pain.

But I assure you there is meaning in the scars you now wear and beauty in the fire that you survived.

You are capable of so much more than you realize.

Just keep moving forward and believing in yourself,

and watch the fire that destroys you, transform you into a better version of yourself.

Silence

Silence is something that comes from your heart, not from outside. Silence doesn’t mean not talking and not doing things; it means that you are not disturbed inside. If you’re truly silent, then no matter what situation you find yourself in you can enjoy the silence. There are moments when you think you’re silent and all around is silent, but talking is going on all the time inside your head. That’s not silence. The practice is how to find silence in all the activities you do.

Let us change our way of thinking and our way of looking. We have to realize that silence comes from our heart and not from the absence of talk. Sitting down to eat your lunch may be an opportunity for you to enjoy silence; though others may be speaking, it’s possible for you to be very silent inside. The Buddha was surrounded by thousands of monks. Although he walked, sat, and ate among the monks and the nuns, he always dwelled in his silence. The Buddha made it very clear that to be alone, to be quiet, does not mean you have to go into the forest. You can live in the sangha, you can be in the marketplace, yet you still enjoy the silence and the solitude. Being alone does not mean there is no one around you.

Being alone means you are established firmly in the here and the now and you become aware of what is happening in the present moment. You use your mindfulness to become aware of every feeling, every perception you have. You’re aware of what’s happening around you in the sangha, but you’re always with yourself, you don’t lose yourself. That’s the Buddha’s definition of the ideal practice of solitude: not to be caught in the past or carried away by the future, but always to be here, body and mind united, aware of what is happening in the present moment. That is real solitude.~

~Thich Nhat Hanh

Women Pretending to Being Queens

 

He's had a lot of misfortune

In his life

Taken advantage of

By women

That promised their loyalty

Women that did not appreciate his heart

And the twelve-hour days he put in

So they could sit at home

Like a damn queen

All the while spending money

Like water

Racking up credit card debt

With no regard for the future devastation

They were unleashing

He's been underappreciated

But has learned

From his past mistakes

Now he's more cautious

More aware

Of women that have hidden motives

Now he doesn't go into a relationship

Blindly

His eyes are wide open

To women pretending

To being queens

The Wrong Person

 

Being with the wrong person

In life

Can be detrimental

To your health

It could have lasting psychological effects

On you

Depending on if there's abuse, neglect, or even a lack of validation for your feelings

Maybe you've become invisible

To the person

And you have to beg for attention

Maybe you feel you can't be your authentic self

Because they already control and manipulate you

Out of their own fears and insecurities

You have a choice

To stay or go

Just know if you stay

You're saying yes

To allowing the abuse to continue

And no to the potential future

Of authentic living

Where your peace and contentment await

Grief

 

I had my own notion of grief.

I thought it was the sad time

That followed the death of someone you love.

And you had to push through it

To get to the other side.

But I'm learning there is no other side.

There is no pushing through.

But rather,

There is absorption.

Adjustment.

Acceptance.

And grief is not something you complete,

But rather, you endure.

Grief is not a task to finish

And move on,

But an element of yourself-

An alteration of your being.

A new way of seeing.

A new definition of self.

~ Gwen Flowers

[Art: Linda Kristiansen: https://www.lindakristiansen.no/]

With or Without You

 

i broke my own heart

by loving you

i thought our love was indestructible

that you'd be there for me

when i needed you

but you weren't

and i had to rethink

my position on you

and reevaluate the value i put on you

it seems like maybe i demand to much

from the people in my life

that at the root of it all

my values and principles are high

i don't intend to lower them

just to keep someone in my life

i don't intend to beg either

go if you want to go

stay if you want to stay

i'm fine with whatever you decide

but will you be fine without me?