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Deep Listening

  The most beautiful quality of all in a human being in my humble opinion? The ability to listen deeply. To listen from Presence. From stillness. To listen without trying to fix someone, change them, or ‘save’ them. The ability to allow another to be exactly as they are. Not giving unsolicited advice. Not lecturing them about the latest psychological research or the ‘most true’ spiritual teaching. Not trying to mold them, manipulate them into matching a concept of who they ‘should’ be. Not projecting your own trauma - or traumatic answers - all over them. Just listening. Listening with an open mind and an open heart and a receptive nervous system. Allowing them to breathe, to express, to weep, to question, to be completely unique, to expand into the space, to discover their own truth. I have met world experts in intimacy, relationships, and honest communication who are unable to do this. I have met spiritual gurus, so-called “enlightened masters”, expert psychologists, and life coa...

Her Memory

There are words Stuck in his throat That he can’t get out Feelings he wants to express But fears he can’t He thinks it’s too late Too much time has gone by And the damage is done He can’t take back What he did And what he should've said Her memory Lingers in him And he knows Time is not on his side One day She’ll marry again One day Her heart will belong to someone else And he’ll have to live with that Because he never Spoke   up

Be the Change

I don't mean to offend people but often times I do, unintentionally. I don't mean to be rude or condescending but sometimes the words out of my mouth sound that way. I use to be quiet.. kept to myself.  You'd never know what I was thinking. But as I've aged that's changed. I'm bold.. sometimes in your face.. Don't hold back anything. Especially when I get a sense of dirtiness.. Someone being less guinuine than what I expect from others. I don't like shady, dishonesty. I don't like being treated like a dumb girl.. taken advantage of. So if you think for even a split second you can pull the wool over my eyes, I'll call you out on your bullshit. Life is to short to play games. To short to not be real.. even with strangers. And I can't help think that more people need to be more bold and stand up to those who are taking advantage of the vulnerable. Say enough is enough.. Take your bullshit somewhere else. Demand integrity.  Demand change. Be the ...

Not Your Job

  PLEASE HONOR YOURSELVES.~~  Quit trying to fix others who can not, or will not, face and work on their shadow. Don’t waste your time helping those who are not courageous enough to be transparent, honest and authentic.  FYI…. An apology without change behavior is actually manipulation. If you have given these ones many chances to rise up, but they continue to break promises, it is time to move on.  It doesn’t matter how much you love them. Even if you have great compassion for how unconscious they are. If they are open and willing to allow you to absorb and process their shadow for them, they do not care for you, they are just using you. This is spiritual abuse.  Don’t let someone make their issues your job!    You cannot fix other peoples issues, unless they’re willing to dive into the messy nightmare we call our shadow. If we keep trying to help someone that isn’t willing to be helped, even if they say they want to be helped, even if they are good a...

When She’s Difficult to Love

She's good at shutting down Just ignore her needs Or neglect her heart  Just once  And she'll retreat within Sometimes for days Her silence Overwhelming  So love her To the best of your ability  Even on the days When she's difficult to love

Periods of Growth

 “ Some periods of our growth are so confusing that we don’t even recognize that growth is happening. We may feel hostile or angry or weepy and hysterical, or we may feel depressed. It would never occur to us, unless we stumbled on a book or a person who explained to us, that we were in fact in the process of change, of actually becoming larger, spiritually, than we were before.  Whenever we grow, we tend to feel it, as a young seed must feel the weight and inertia of the earth as it seeks to break out of its shell on its way to becoming a plant. Often the feeling is anything but pleasant. But what is most unpleasant is the not knowing what is happening. Those long periods when something inside ourselves seems to be waiting, holding its breath, unsure about what the next step should be, eventually become the periods we wait for, for it is in those periods that we realize that we are being prepared for the next phase of our life and that, in all probability, a new level of the ...

Love in Motion

" Love is the perfection of consciousness. We do not love because we do not comprehend, or rather.. we do not comprehend because we do not love.  For love is the ultimate meaning of everything around us. It is not a mere sentiment; it is truth; it is the joy that is at the root of all creation..  The human soul is on its journey from the law to love, from discipline to liberation, from the moral plane to the spiritual...  In love all the contradictions of existence merge themselves and are lost. Only in love are unity and duality not at variance. Love must be one and two at the same time. Only love is motion and rest in one. Our heart ever changes its place till it finds love, and then it has its rest." ~Rabindranath Tagore

Twin Flame Dream- Relationships

  From Journal Entry 6/17/2013 I am with my husband and kids in his living room. He is across from us with his wife and kids. His wife has a birthmark under her left eye. He points to the right side of her face and says he loves that side more. He points to everyone except me and says we are all family. Then he points to a family portrait on the wall. He calls my family his aunts and uncles. I can feel how family is important to you… How family comes first. How family also means everything to me. How there is a karmic bond between our families. In the end, we all want to feel like we belong to someone or to something greater than ourselves. I want to say that that greater thing is love. And unselfishly, we know that our greatest wounds are caused by love. This twin flame journey has really shed light on family dynamics. I see how our infinite souls are intertwined with those we love and even those that we grow to hate. I don't have all the answers. I don't know if my actions ar...