My view of relationships is that they are unique and incredible opportunities for us to face our demons and to grow.
Together.
Our intimate partner is there to provoke and trigger some of our deepest wounds, and to bring them to the surface so they can be healed.
We are either in a relationship where we perpetually TURN AWAY from these opportunities.
Or, where we commit to TURN TOWARD them.
This means that when we are triggered or we see things about the other person that we don’t like—or about ourselves—we don’t run. Or avoid.
We know that “issues” will come up and this is okay. This is welcomed even.
We use these as opportunities to heal our weaknesses and build our strengths.
We zero right in on whatever is going on and look at it.
Much of the work is clearing space, diving deep to clear away debris and junk and ignored issues that have been sitting dormant or rotting for years and even decades.
Rolling up our sleeves to get in there and clean house.
And sometimes we build a new house.
The old one is often built on the illusions and misinformation people have absorbed about relationships.
The new one is built on radical honesty, courage, open-heartedness, multiple, life-changing orgasms, and awakening and self-actualizing.
~Kim Anami
