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There is No Hiding in a Conscious Relationship

There is no such thing as a totally conscious relationship because the very nature of relationship is to draw forth the unconscious and realistically one cannot draw forth the unconscious without acting it out at some point… This is all part of the healing, it is not a failure, it is the very fire from which the phoenix rises… So what determines a conscious relationship? Simply put, it is a relationship in which the conscious always gets the better of the unconscious, it is an arena for constant shedding and surrender and this can only happen because of the committed intention of both partners that is supported by their respect and love for each other… You cannot have a conscious relationship with someone who is not ready to release their false self image, the desire for liberation has to be greater than ego’s fear of annihilation and just as importantly, the desire for the other's freedom has to be greater than the need for possession and ownership... There is no arrival in a cons...

When God Created Woman

W hen God created woman he was working late on the 6th day. An angel came by and asked, “Why spend so much time on her?" The Lord answered, “Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her? She must function in all kinds of situations. She must be able to embrace several kids at the same time. Have a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart. She must do all this with only two hands. She cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day.” The angel was impressed, "Just two hands...impossible! And this is the standard model?" The angel came closer and touched the woman. “But you have made her so soft, Lord." "She is soft", said the Lord, "But I have made her strong. You can't imagine what she can endure and overcome." "Can she think?" The angel asked. The Lord answered, "Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate." The angel touched her cheeks. "Lord, it seems this cr...

Buried in Regret

there was a lie buried in his chest he loved her all these years apart and the sting of that love  still haunts his days and keeps him awake at night he knows he has to tell her his truth or be buried in regret the rest of his life  

A Relationship That is Alive

The healthiest relationships are the honest ones, the ones grounded in Presence, not fantasy or false hope, and a deep commitment to a living truth. Where two souls can share their authentic, real-time, embodied selves with each other, reveal their deepest truths – raw, messy, unresolved, unfinished and rough at the edges - and continually let go of their preconceived, conditioned ideas about how they ‘should’ be. The relationship is continually renewed in the crucible of intimacy. There may be ruptures, misunderstandings, intense feelings of doubt, anger, fear, anxiety and groundlessness along the way, yes, of course, but there is a mutual willingness to face this mess as it arises. To be vulnerable. To say “I hurt. I am in pain. I feel deep sorrow” and not blame the other for that pain. To say “I need some support” but not demand it of the other. To share desires and hopes and longings and dreams and not command that the other see things in the same way, or meet all of your needs. To...

Only the Priceless

Stop thinking she breaks easily.  Not everything which shatters is fragile or frail. She isn’t delicate.  She wasn’t torn apart by something minor.  The most valuable things endure.  Only the priceless survives.  Be gentle because she’s hard on herself.  Treat her carefully because others  have been so careless.  Give reassurance freely  because it costs nothing.  Fear of abandonment is still real  even when all you’ve known is doing it alone. Bring your resolve.  She’s tired of temporary, flimsy.  And people who flee  at the first sign of adversity.  Maybe a reason why her pain runs deep  is because she doesn’t exist on the surface. Her emotions have roots.  Her love is wholehearted.  The most tender people are rarely given the opportunity to be anything other than domineering.  Be sturdy, steadfast,  and give her space to be soft.  Give her room to relax.  Feel the knots in he...

The Witching Hours/The Shocking Truth

      i made room for your dreaming in me i let your ghost invade me in my slumber i made room for your thoughts  to reach my heart as i slept and upon awakening  always hoping  that tomorrow  you'd remember my name and all your insecurities  you'd put aside to call me so i could hear your voice  like i do when i'm dreaming of you but it's only in the witching hours that you invade my space and i'm reminded  again and again  you are not real but your ghost confused regards me as home

Love and Sex

A relationship will only be as good as the sex. We can make a list about what brings and keeps two people together. We can talk about compatibility and shared ambitions and goals, but if a certain sexual chemistry isn’t there, nothing in the world can make up for it. There is a reason why sex is important for couples. With physical connection, we are able to gain greater insight to our subconscious connection. We all experience intimacy differently, but we all crave relationships that cater to our current mental, spiritual and emotional states. This craving for intimacy binds us together. Regardless of religious beliefs, there is no ignoring the cultural and historical importance of sex between lovers. It’s used to consummate a marriage, achieve spiritual ascension or even open the third eye through kundalini awakening. Sex is the vehicle for our love. So, what happens when the sex just isn’t great? The first thing we have to do is get real with ourselves; we have be honest about why t...