The 3 Month Point

she kept herself hidden
the woman he saw
was worth every ounce
of affection and effort
she was saving
the best part of herself
for him
he just had to bring her
out of her hiding place
if he could do that
he would own her heart

Before You

she evolved
into a beautiful woman
but what it took
was rough hands, harsh words,
and neglected tears
before you
she was a girl
surviving abuse
from men that said they loved her
she is now the woman
that melts your heart
when she smiles
you don't see her brokenness
or the pain from her battles
all you see is the magic
in her eyes
and the way she makes you feel
more alive than ever before
her evolution
is your security
because women like her
don't take men like you
for granted

If You Stay

dear lover, i hope you decide to stay with me, because i'm done chasing after men begging for their love and affection. just know if you treat me good and if you do stay, i'll love you deep and hard. i hope you can handle that, because I don't do anything half-ass.

Devotion to Oneself

she was alone
and pursued herself
wholeheartedly
not willing
to give up on herself
not willing to settle
for a mediocre version of herself
she was determined
to know herself
to fall in love with herself
and live the rest of her life
discovering the happiness she deserved

Permission to Love

he was the one
she thought about
he was the one
she missed
her heart
struggled to give her
permission to love him
because that would mean
this shit is real

Things Mentally Strong People Do

~ They move on. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.

~They keep control. They don’t give away their power.

~They embrace change. They welcome challenges.

~They are kind. They don’t complain. They don’t waste energy on things they can't control.

~They are willing to take calculated risks. They weigh the risks and benefits before taking action.

~They accept full responsibility for their past behaviors. They don’t make the same mistake over and over.

~They celebrate other people's success. They don’t resent that success.

~They are willing to fail. They don’t give up after failing. They see every failure as a chance to improve.

~They are prepared to work and succeed on their own merits. They don’t feel the world owes them anything.

~They have staying power. They don’t expect immediate results.

~They enjoy their time alone. They don’t fear being alone.

~They expend their mental energy wisely. They don’t spend time on unproductive thoughts.

~They think productively. They replace negative thoughts with productive thoughts.

~They tolerate discomfort. They accept their feelings without being controlled by them.

~They reflect on their progress every day. They take time to consider what they've achieved and where they are going.~~

Reference~ https://www.facebook.com/sacred.dreams/photos/a.224532161032540/1489757557843321/?type=3&theater

An Eagle

his thoughts were bent
to do evil
he sought to destroy her
but he could not see
her invisible wings
that gave her the advantage
of seeing from the mountain peak
into the gorges of his heart
she courageously dived down
into them
like an eagle
and soared out of them
untouched and unseen

Shadow Work- Part 3

HEAL YOURSELF

Not deserving love is the consequence of our child’s “logical” mind.
But what caused it was being forbidden to ask for love.

According with the cognitive-behavioral psychology (Carl Jung), we need to forget us for rejecting a part of us, and for thinking that part of us was wrong. We also have to integrate that part on us again for good.

How can we do that? Reliving the memory and altering it by seeing your grown up you in the memory as well, comforting and loving the child you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c3V_Gtfr_YA&t=5s


* This is only a guidance from my experience, for you to understand the process, you must do the steps your own way*

So, go to that moment when your mom forbade you to ask for love:

- Take a sit in front of a mirror (close enough to see yourself up close).
- Relax, take a deep breath.
- Look at yourself in the mirror, through the eyes.
- Look for your child in your reflection, in your eyes.  Look at yourself, observe you. With no judgement. Do not look at your face, look inside of you.

- Close your eyes and meditate.
- Go to the moment when your mom forbade you to ask for love, the memory you recovered on meditation.
- See your grownup-self inside the memory, you are near to your child-self.
- Recognize your child-self feelings: fear of not deserve love, fear of mom not loving you, fear of disappear.
- It is only a little child who needs love.
- Feel the compassion, feel the unconditional love towards your child-self.
- Hug you, tell you you are worthy, you deserve love.
- Ask you for forgiveness.
- Forgiveness for mistreat yourself, for banned yourself, for deny yourself.
- Tell you how much you love you.

Reference- Ana Barrios, https://myownpathwalker.blogspot.com