THE COMPLICATION
If twin flames were just the unified soul, things would likely be less complicated, because much of the bullshit we perseverate on in this world goes away at the soul level. The complication comes from being a soul in two forms. It’s even more complicated when those two forms are incarnate are the same time and even more complicated yet, if those two forms happen to encounter each other. And of course, the first place trophy for most complicated aspect of twin flames is when one of them realizes the connection and what it means, while the other does not, might be married to someone else, and walks away, as if their twin flame means nothing to them. There are times we all give the universe some serious side eye and ask, in an exasperated tone, “Seriously?!?”
SPIRITUAL REALITY
You feel like you’re married because you are. Welcome to the wonderful world of hieros gamos. Hieros gamos is derived from Greek and means holy marriage or sacred union between gods and goddesses or divine masculine and divine feminine.
There are all kinds of articles out there about hieros gamos and they are all interesting reads, but when it comes right down to it, stripped of all the fantastic imagery and mystique, in the context of twin flames, it is the oneness of the soul’s energy. It is very much a marriage, even more so than how marriages have been understood in this world. In this world, marriages are a union of separateness for a period of time and always have loopholes and escape clauses. In the sacred union, it is a union of one, eternal and nothing can sever it.
If you want a practical image of sacred union, (I might have used this metaphor before, but it’s good so I’m using it again) Imagine a bucket being filled with ocean water and then placing the bucket on the sand of the beach. Look at the water as the soul and the ocean as a body and in the bucket as aspects of the divine masculine or feminine. It really doesn’t matter if you think of the water in the bucket or the ocean as divine masculine or feminine. After a while, pour the water, which is in the bucket, back into the ocean. The ocean water in the bucket was never any less ocean while in the bucket and when it returns to the ocean, it is all still ocean. Sacred union is recognizing that you and your twin are the same ocean water regardless of the bucket’s separation.
MATRIX ILLUSIONS
Separation is an illusion of the matrix in which we live. When twin flames incarnate in this world, we walk in our avatars and experience life from the perspectives of each. Twin flames experience the differences of the matrix, while at the same time have the undercurrent of reality within them in the soul they share.
If the ocean in my metaphor were to be conscious and articulate how it feels in the bucket, it might believe it was a different kind of water and perhaps look longingly at the ocean in its natural state. It might even believe it was separate from the ocean. You could sit all day on that sandy beach, and tell the water in the bucket that it is the ocean and until it understands, it will focus on the wood, rivets, handle, wax and whatever else might compose the bucket. The bucket is very important and serves a purpose in the matrix, but it doesn’t make the ocean within, a different kind of water than the ocean.
And let’s be mindful that there are twin flames who are in relationships with each other, in which there is no separation, or at least, separation might appear different than what we expect.
FREE WILL AND DESTINY
As separate beings in this world, we have free will and that includes whether we wish to interact with our twin flame. Free will of the two forms ends when we complete our journey of life; when the bucket is emptied of its water. Destiny is nothing more than the ocean returning to the ocean. Sometimes, destiny has the water poured back into the ocean. Other times, the water in the bucket may evaporate into the clouds and return with rain. One way or another, ocean returns to ocean.
WHY YOU FEEL MARRIED
Realizing you’re a twin flame and being in separation is rough, regardless of it being an illusion. That feeling of being married to your twin flame is because in your soul, you are; just as the ocean water in a bucket is married to the ocean in that they are one and the same.
~ Dr. Danielle Burke
