The holy instant is a miniature of Heaven, sent you from Heaven. It is a miniature of eternity. It is a picture of timelessness, set in a frame of time.
The holy relationship is a major step toward the perception of the real world. It is the old unholy relationship transformed and seen anew. The holy relationship is a phenomenal teaching accomplishment. As it begins, develops, and becomes accomplished, it represents the reversal of the unholy relationship. The only difficult phase is the beginning. For here, the goal of the relationship is abruptly shifted to the exact opposite of what it was. This is the first result of offering the relationship to the Holy Spirit to use for His purposes.
The Holy Spirit accepts the invitation immediately. At once His goal replaces yours. This is accomplished very rapidly, but it makes the relationship seem disturbed, disjunctive, and even quite distressing. Once the unholy relationship has accepted the goal of holiness, it can never again be what it was.
The temptation of the ego becomes extremely intense with this shift in goals. For the relationship has not yet been changed sufficiently to make its former goal completely without attraction. The relationship is severely strained until the relationship is changed to fit the goal.
As the change develops and is finally accomplished, it grows increasingly beneficent and joyous. But at the beginning, the situation is experienced as very precarious. As these two individuals contemplate their relationship from the point of view of this new purpose, they are inevitably appalled. Their perception of the relationship may become quite disorganized.
This is the time for faith. Do not abandon faith, now that the rewards of faith are being introduced. If you believe the Holy Spirit was there to accept the relationship, then believe he is there to purify what He has taken under His guidance. Have faith in each other in what seems to be a trying time. The goal is set. And your relationship has sanity as its purpose.
For now you find yourself in an insane relationship. You must exclude major areas of fantasy from each other to save your sanity. Have faith in Him who answered you. He heard. You are not wholly insane. Now He asks for faith a little longer, even in bewilderment. For this will go, and you will see the justification for your faith emerge to bring you shining conviction. Abandon Him not now, nor each other. The relationship has been reborn as holy.
Accept with gladness what you don not understand, and let it be explained to you as you perceive its purpose work in it to make it holy. You will find many opportunities to blame each other for the “failure” of your relationship, for it will seem at times to have no purpose. A sense of aimlessness will come to haunt you and to remind you of all the ways you once sought for satisfaction and thought you found it. Forget now the misery you really found, and do not breathe life into your failing egos. For your relationship has not been disrupted. It has been saved.
In your newness, remember you have started again together. And take each other’s hand to walk together along a road far more familiar than you now believe.
Reference~ A Course In Miracles