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  The mystery of Love, and of the purest sexual connection, is the perfect expression of both desire and generosity. Unity is felt not only in our shared emotional depth, but also in each other's inexhaustible longing to fill and be filled. We tap into this powerful connection with a simple look, the way our hands touch, or lips softly brush against the ear. We now live and move and have our being in each other. That unity embodies many things. It creates and gives breath to our unbreakable emotional bond. It opens a pathway of communication within the very depths of our hearts. It allows us to symbolize and express in the deepest way our safety, adoration, acceptance, and commitment. When we are joined together sexually, we sense our perfect wholeness. It allows us to taste the gift of love. It gives freely and ask nothing in return. Available on Amazon   https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DDQCRY52
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In The Absence of the Lover

" Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so  beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because  the connection shines a bright  light on their dark places and  they are not ready to work them  through. Sometimes they run away because  they are not developmentally  prepared to merge with another, they have more individuation work  to do first.  Sometimes they take off because  love is not a priority in their lives;  they have another path and  purpose to walk first.  Sometimes they end it because  they prefer a relationship that is  more practical than conscious,  one that does not threaten the  ways that they organize reality.  Because so many of us carry  shame, we have a tendency to  personalize love's leavings,  triggered by the rejection and  feelings of abandonment.  But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do  with us. Som...

Love: The Invisible Thread of Recognition

We meet thousands of faces in a lifetime, yet only a few leave an imprint on the soul. It is not beauty or words that bind us, it is the invisible thread of recognition. The quiet way a heart understands another without explanation. True connection is rare. It does not ask for perfection, it asks for presence. It is not built in grand gestures, but in the small moments of honesty, kindness, and loyalty. In the end, love is not about finding someone to complete you. It is about finding someone who reminds you that you were whole all along. — Chamod Senevirathne   

True Love Is Meant To Build You

One day... you’ll come across someone who truly sees you for who you are. Not just the polished version you present to the world, but the raw, unfiltered parts of you that you sometimes hide. This person won’t ask you to shrink yourself or change just to fit into their life. They’ll love you exactly as you are... flaws, quirks, scars, and all. With them, there will be no begging for attention, no constant need to prove your worth, no exhausting fight just to earn affection. Love won’t feel like a competition or a battlefield. Instead, it will feel calm, steady, and deeply reassuring. It will feel like something that was always meant to be... natural and effortless, like two souls finally finding their way back home. This love will not confuse you or make you question if you’re enough. It won’t keep you chasing after validation or second-guessing where you stand. Instead, it will bring peace to your heart. You’ll feel valued and appreciated, not only for your strengths but also for the ...

You Can’t Choose To Be In Love

Love chooses you... It happens, and that's it.  It doesn't matter if it's the right time or not. If he has a character opposite to yours... If he is twice your age, or half. If he lives on the other side of the world... If it's the best, or the worst, thing that could happen to you... It doesn't matter. Love comes like that.  He doesn't ask your permission. He asks nothing. He chooses you. Love is not just an attraction or a choice... It is not linked to beauty, intelligence, good qualities... Ohh no. Love is a connection, a magical vibration, a mystical force, a unique current, a storm of emotions, a huge landslide. Love is like life... It's everything we didn't choose. Love is free and indomitable… You no longer master or control anything.  This is also how you recognize it... It lives in you, haunts you, even when you try to chase it away... It is he who takes control of your heart and your thoughts. And the best, and the wisest, is to surrender to it...

Creating a Conscious Marriage

Your marriage is the reflection of your wounds. If you feel stuck, it means you are carrying unhealed parts of yourself into your relationship. When two people come together, they don’t just bring love and dreams, they also bring pain, fears, and patterns from childhood. Marriage becomes a mirror that reflects back everything you have not yet healed within yourself. That is why many couples feel like they are living the same fights again and again. It’s not because love is missing—it’s because healing is missing. Until the wounds inside are acknowledged and held, no amount of effort can create deep intimacy. Every argument is not about your partner; it’s about your inner child who feels unseen, unheard, or unloved. Every distance you feel is not a lack of love, but a signal from your soul that something within you is waiting to be embraced. Marriage was never meant to be a battlefield. It was meant to be a safe home where two souls grow together. But if wounds lead the way, even love c...

COMMITMENT, DEVOTION & DEEP AVOIDANCE

  On the pathway into deep intimacy, there are many challenges that must be navigated. One of these is the presence of avoidance. “That’s them, not me”… I can already hear those who err on the side of more anxiety, cry. For those who believe, who yearn, who ache for love and connection and enduring relationships, the notion of avoidance is one that is externalised to ‘them’, those we are trying to love, who somehow despite whatever we do, won’t give us what we want.  However there is a much more confronting reality… Avoidance is present in pretty much all of us. Anxious attachment is a form of avoidance… as the self-contorting, self-abandoning, volatile nature of this attachment style actually impedes rather than fosters intimacy.  Trying to make it work with unsuitable partners is a form of avoidance. Fantasising about and pursuing unavailable others is a form of avoidance. Keeping an eye out always for greener pastures, for that perfect and most ideal one, is a form of ...

My Twin Flame Dream: Healing and Integration Across Time

From Journal Entry 8/22/20025 I'm lucid. I'm in a house with people I know. The time period is years ago, around the time when I met my twin flame. I was young, and he was just dating his current wife. She was there, too. They were in a back room together of a house. I was aware that I was in a past time period. I was holding a photograph in my hand. And the photograph was of the past that depicted that current time period and where I was. I was debating in my head whether I should go talk to him. I was a little scared. I told myself this is my chance. So, I go find him, and I tell him I need to talk to him in private. We go outside and I tell him that I'm actually from the future, and that a lot of time has passed. I show him the photograph. I tell him that we will be basically in a relationship for the next 30 years and it will be kind of complicated. A lot of it won't make sense because it's not a physical relationship, in 30 years from now it will make sense. An...

Reflections On Being A Boy Mom

M y son recently moved out. I can't help but reflect on the last 21 years. And I'm asking myself, what has he taught me. More than anything he has shown me what a healthy masculine looks like. He's gentle, consistent, considerate, loving, patient, kind, thoughtful, and strong. I'm proud of the man he is becoming and feel blessed to be the woman that raised him. I know he's got all his dad's good qualities.  I know though that he's got a quiet reflective nature within him that leads me to think he did learn something from me. I will leave it at that.  I came across a journal entry that I wrote when he was twelve. I think a lot of boy moms will relate to it's simple yet reflective message. All those moments behind you. Now those daily interactions you had with him mean so much more. They're forever in your memory. Journal Entry 2016 Son,  While you're away at camp, I won't miss your stinky socks in the middle of the floor. Your urine stains aro...