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  The mystery of Love, and of the purest sexual connection, is the perfect expression of both desire and generosity. Unity is felt not only in our shared emotional depth, but also in each other's inexhaustible longing to fill and be filled. We tap into this powerful connection with a simple look, the way our hands touch, or lips softly brush against the ear. We now live and move and have our being in each other. That unity embodies many things. It creates and gives breath to our unbreakable emotional bond. It opens a pathway of communication within the very depths of our hearts. It allows us to symbolize and express in the deepest way our safety, adoration, acceptance, and commitment. When we are joined together sexually, we sense our perfect wholeness. It allows us to taste the gift of love. It gives freely and ask nothing in return. Available on Amazon   https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DDQCRY52
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How Long it Takes To Forget Someone

Psychology says it takes 15 months and 27 days to forget someone who you love with all your heart. That’s because love isn’t just a passing emotion—it’s a deep, emotional bond built through shared moments, trust, laughter, vulnerability, and countless memories that become part of your identity. When you give someone your heart, they occupy a space in your life that isn’t easily replaced. They’re woven into your daily habits, the songs you listen to, the places you go, and even the way you think. When that person is gone, you don’t just lose them—you lose the version of yourself that existed with them. The healing process is rarely quick. It’s a slow, often painful journey of untangling your emotions, detaching from the hope of what could have been, and facing the emptiness they’ve left behind. Some days you’ll miss them so much it physically aches; other days, you’ll surprise yourself with how far you’ve come. Those 15 months and 27 days aren’t just about forgetting—they’re about relea...

The Truth About A Man

Just because you get thousands of likes on your profile picture will not keep a man.  Being honest about things in your past will not keep a man.  Being faithful and loyal since day one doesn't keep a man.  Treating a man better than he's ever been treated before doesn't keep a man.  Making an effort every single day to make sure he knows you truly care will not keep a man.  Giving him all of your time that you can spare, doesn't keep a man.  You could have the best intentions in the world and could have the most sincere feelings, and you could be the most perfect woman in existence and you still wouldn't be able to keep a man.  The only way to keep a man is if that man wants to be kept by you.  With a man, you can tell he wants to be kept when the relationship gets very hard and he does everything to fight for you.  A man only fights for a woman he wants to belong to, so if he isn't fighting for you when things get hard, then that means he d...

Hearing Bells in Dreams

Have you heard bells in dreams? This could be a doorbell, church bells, or a ringing of a phone. These sounds in dreams alert us of something important that is about to happen or needs  immediate attention now. They can also invite us to connect with loved ones. How do you interpret the message? That depends on the bell and how you feel when you hear it. Here's some common dream themes of bells. Phone Ringing . To hear a phone ring will indicate an important message from a loved one or friend is soon to arrive. You soon will get important news.  Depending on your feeling in the dream it will indicate if the news is favorable or unfavorable.   Wedding Bells . Hearing wedding bells is good. They indicate a new beginning.  Perhaps a new relationship. Maybe you're entering a new phase in life and are transitioning spiritually coupled with growth. Wedding bells can denote a period of joy and bliss coming.  Welcome these bells with an open heart. Doorbells . The ...

When A Woman Learns To Rely on Herself

The more bills a woman pays by herself, the less attractive men become to her...not because she’s lost her desire for partnership, but because she’s grown tired of shouldering the weight alone. Every bill paid without help is a reminder that the kind of support and teamwork she hoped for isn’t there. It chips away at her hope for a partnership where burdens are shared, where love means showing up not just in words but in action. When a woman carries her financial responsibilities solo, she learns to rely on herself in ways she never thought she would. She builds resilience, independence, and a fierce determination to create the life she wants without waiting for anyone to catch up. But with every step she takes alone, the idea of depending on a man loses its appeal. Why invite someone in when you already handle the heavy lifting? Why lower her standards when she knows what it means to be strong on her own? Men become less attractive because she’s no longer looking for someone to simply...

A Thousand Cuts

A thousand cuts inflicted on myself for your one Pain being the only true measurement  Of what was real  And yet so much remains unknown I may never know if you felt pain Pain of loving  The pain of remembering  And the pain of losing me But I did  And still do for you What has changed  Is that another love Has stepped in Taken your place Your memory still in me But no longer consumes me Sometimes I wonder If you sent him to me Because it was the only act of love You could do for me How strange love is It binds me to you And now to him Our fates all sealed And joined

True Intimacy

1. True Intimacy Requires Emotional Presence Being emotionally present means fully experiencing and expressing your emotions in the moment, without suppression or distraction. True intimacy flourishes when we allow ourselves to be seen as we truly are. 2. Vulnerability is Strength, Not Weakness Many people fear vulnerability because they associate it with weakness. However, being vulnerable—openly expressing fears, desires, and insecurities—builds trust and deepens relationships. 3. Emotional Avoidance Blocks Intimacy When we suppress difficult emotions or avoid deep conversations, we create distance in our relationships. Facing emotions, even the painful ones, is key to fostering true connection. 4. Self-Intimacy is the Foundation of Relationship Intimacy Before we can form deep connections with others, we must first cultivate a deep understanding and acceptance of ourselves. Emotional intimacy begins with self-awareness and self-compassion. 5. Healing Old Wounds Creates Space for Lov...

Dream of Marrying Michael Jackson

From Journal Entry 11/21/24 I had a dream right after I met my boyfriend. In the dream, I cancelled my wedding. A big box of gifts arrived from my uncle and my cousin. I forgot to tell them I cancelled the wedding, and don't know if I should return the gifts. In the dream, I was going to marry Michael Jackson. I was very content with my decision. I was not upset.  Cancelling a wedding in a dream often reflects a change in commitment or a major decision being reconsidered. Since this happened after meeting my boyfriend, it could reflect an unconscious shift—maybe letting go of past expectations or imagined futures. It might represent the part of me that is opening up to something new (my current relationship) and moving away from a previous internal plan or idea of the future. Gifts in dreams often symbolize emotional support, inherited values, or blessings from my family. Forgetting to tell my uncle and cousin  could point to some tension about how my changing path (perhaps ...

You Don't Love The Same Way Twice

" The truth is, you don’t love the same way twice. You don’t give the same parts of yourself to everyone, and you won’t. Some people will meet parts of you that someone hasn’t, and that some never will. It’s the beauty of connection, you will never share the same love twice. Some will peel away the layers to reveal your vulnerability, others will strengthen the walls you built. Some will be fleeting, others will linger in your heart. But ultimately, no one will imprint you the same or hold the same weight. Each love leaves an authentic mark, a lesson learned, or a truth revealed. Some teach you how to trust again, others remind you why you needed to protect your heart in the first place. Some will make you feel seen, others make you feel invisible. It’s not until you truly see yourself, you truly value every love that passes through without being bitter about goodbyes that come with some. Every love has a way of teaching you, breaking you, and shaping you into someone new. Someone...