It’s the Feminine That Leads a Relationship

 It’s the feminine that actually leads a relationship

(in the subtle)...

For anyone who has touched the polarity world

You’d know

That the masculine leads.

That’s what they tell you right

It’s up to the man to lead

To take charge

To have direction

And for the feminine

For the woman…

She is in an unending state of surrender.

Just simply waiting for him to know

Exactly where they need to go.

I think whoever came up with this teaching doesn’t really know much about women at all.

It paints a sexy picture...

The sweet receptive feminine

And the brash confident masculine

With their incredible electric polarity

The stuff of movies

And our wildest erotic fantasies

Like all archetypal stories… it’s a myth

It’s an ideal that can teach us something

But it’s not really real.

Anyone who tries to live this to the letter

Is in for an unpleasant surprise

Because that’s not how relationships actually work...

Most women aren’t just waiting around

Trusting him to know everything

Offering up every bit of their own authority

And outsourcing it to him

Most men don’t want to lead everything all the time

Constantly guessing and anticipating

His life not much more than an attempt to mind-read

And meet her endless needs

Feel the dysfunction in that

Feel the contortion in it

It’s not healthy.

There is a deeper truth to be found…

We need to explore some ancient wisdom to make sense of what really happens between us

The Yin-Yang

This symbol has persisted for so long

Because it has so much to teach

Inside the Yin is a core of Yang

Inside the Yang is a core of Yin

Interesting that.

Leading and following is not one-dimensional

It is multi-dimensional

Understanding this, changes everything...

In the subtle… the realms of the non-verbal

The non-linear. The non-rational

The quantum oracular nature of the feminine shines

This is where she knows, through her sensing

What needs to happen next...

This is her Yang

Yet in the subtle she leads this gracefully

through invitations

The better she invites

And inspires

The more he will be able to receive her sensing and turn it into experiences for them.

That little glance up to meet his eyes for just a second

An Invitation.

“Where would you like to go for dinner?” he asks.

“I don’t know… maybe somewhere romantic and cosy”

An Invitation.

“I read this post on tantric intimacy the other day, it’s fascinating, can I share it with you?”

An Invitation.

The arch of her body straining for his lips or his touch

An invitation.

Always an invitation to journey somewhere

Experience something

Go deeper

His position is to lead in the concrete.

He hears her invitation and picks up the phone and makes the reservation to just the right restaurant that will give that vibe to enhance the mood she is sensing.

He sees her glance and mustering his confidence strides across the room to introduce himself.

He finds the post she is referring to, then reads more… finally booking them into a weekend workshop recognising that this invitation is going to make things so much yummier between them.

He reaches out to touch or kiss her right there, at the right time, in the right way...

His Yin core is Attunement.

Deep listening.

Her Yang core is Invitation.

We are multi-dimensional beings

Dancing with each other in synergy

Across layers of time and space

The better we get at this dance

The more profound the intimacy we experience.

Doubt the one-dimensional polarity teachings

Because they are limiting

And will never take you where you know you can go.

Because you are so so so much vaster than that…

~ Damien Bohler

What Every Women Should Understand

 

1. Your biggest enemy is yourself. That enemy is the one who makes you overthink, develop a low self-esteem, make you emotionally unstable and give you headache. Love yourself from the inside first before you expect love from the outside.

2. You are not in a relationship with a man until you both clearly state it.  Don't get carried away by the idea of love with a man simply because he spends time with you or treats you special.

3. If you are in a relationship or marriage, demanding your man to spend time with you will not make him do so.  A man willingly spends time with you because you give him peace and he enjoys your company. Attract him the same way you peacefully and warmly attracted him when he was pursuing you.

4. Mr.  Right is the man who offers a conducive environment for you to be the best you. Choose your environment well.

5. Your husband will never find you if you keep fooling around with other women's husbands.

6. Mr.  Right can also hurt you. The difference is that Mr.  Right hurts when he hurts you, he apologises, owns up to his short comings and makes effort to love you better. Love is a learning process.

7. Silent treatment will not solve anything. If your man hurts you, learn to speak your hurt and teach him to love you better. The best couples have mastered the art of conflict resolution.

8. Most men don't mind being corrected. What they do mind is the tone with which you correct them. The world has been harsh towards women for years, but tone down your defensive mode and learn to communicate effectively with respect and love. You two don't have to fight and argue to look like you are addressing issues.

9. A man who is not serious about you will avoid accountability, will operate in grey areas and will hide you. You will never go far with him. Serious men like being kept accountable, they take pride in what they commit to and are not afraid of responsibilities.

10. Getting pregnant for a man will not make him serious about you. Men are serious about a woman because they have a personal vision that includes her.

11. If you are not a woman who knows herself, relationships and marriages will bring you drama. Your self awareness is your personal responsibility.

12. If you do know yourself and you get married to a man who doesn't know himself, he will frustrate you. Be careful in him being lost he doesn't make you lose you. When marriages go bad, the repurcations are heaviest on the woman.

13. Just because you have a relationship with God or you marry someone who has a relationship with God does not mean your marriage will work. You two have to learn to relate with each other, not just with God.

14. There are good men in this world, just like there are good women in this world. You will not encounter those good men if you keep entertaining the wrong ones and frequenting where the wrong ones dwell.

15. During dating, if you want to see the calibre of man you are getting to know, put off sex and see if he will stay, if he is interested for more than just sex. Be careful, some men will tell you all kinds of promises to get you to bed. They are just curious about how sexing you feels like, not interested to grow with you. Once they sex you, the curiosity goes, especially after you get pregnant. 

16. Relationships/marriages don't always end or struggle because of the man, sometimes you are the problem. Learn to be honest and objective to see your wrong. If you two work together, your love will grow stronger.

17. An insecure man will fight everything that is good about you; from your success, your career, your beauty, your personality, your education and he will blame you for his own issues. He is the problem, not you.  Don't dim your light for a man whose identity is in darkness.

18. If you have a good man, don't exaggerate the wrong he has done today to the point that you forget how good he has been to you. Don't make him feel unappreciated because he didn't do as you wanted him to today. Keep your perspective and don't overreact.

19. Don't be that woman who has been so damaged by wrong men that when the good man comes along you push him away.

20. Before you go and share your issues with your man to your friends, share them with him.  The solution lies between you two. If he is stubborn or you two still disagree, then share with someone he can be accountable to, like a true friend or a counsellor, if it gets worse, involve both your parents.

21. Disagreement or a bad day in your relationship or marriage doesn't mean it is breaking apart. Keep calm. Don't panic.

22. No matter how much your husband loves you, he might not see your dreams or even support you that much. You have to learn to defend and nurture your dreams even if he doesn't get it.

22. Complaining and nagging will never give you the desired results, it will only push your man away from you and make him tolerate you instead of enjoy you. If you want to inspire him to do more for and with you, appreciate him, have pleasant conversations with him, be easy to talk to.

23. If you don't learn how to say no, people and the world will use you and dump you. 

24. Remember, there is more to life than marriage, sex and having children. You are a blessing with so much to accomplish and pursue as an individual.

25. Don't be hard on yourself. Pat yourself on the back for how far you have gone .Good Night Everyone.

~ Credit to unknown writer ✍️

An Evolved Man

An evolved man will not try to pry your heart open or penetrate you with his masculine presence in bed or out of it.

He will create a space for you to slowly blossom open.

He is in no hurry to see what every petal looks like, smells like, tastes like...

He needs nothing from you to fill his being so to him, however long it takes is irrelevant.

He has no agenda with you. None. 

He doesn't need sex from you.

He doesn't need love from you. 

He doesn't need validation from you.

What he desires is your choice. To choose him. 

And for him that choice is felt when you allow your heart to melt more and more in his presence.

He knows that as much as he wants to take you, it's you that must give him the permission to do so freely by your choice to open your heart to him.

You see my dear women, it is your choice always. 

Every man knows this deep down. 

It is you who chooses who to give yourself to and therefore no amount of him prying you open is really what either of you want in your love dynamic.

We are so conditioned to experience love through the way a man tries to be the hero and the way we want our hearts to be pryed because that's what we see in stories, movies, media.

If a man is trying to pry you open it is a reflection of the way you ask your own heart to be pryed open in your life: forcing yourself, pushing yourself to exhaustion, creating unnecessary chaos in your life just to feel present and alive.

We are not victims and we don't need our hearts to be unlocked by another human. We can give ourselves permission to allow our own hearts to unfold.

And we can recognize when a man is giving us the space to unfold in his presence so that we can gift him with our choice to be with him.

The power of that kind of choice... Requires responsibility.

Are you ready???

-Lauren Sheehan

Be Careful Who You Hurt

 

One day you will realize that the same person is not found twice in life. Not everyone is replaceable. Be careful who you hurt.

In this fast-paced, ever-evolving world, we often take relationships for granted. We live in a culture that promotes moving on quickly, finding something or someone new to fill the void. But there comes a moment, often when it’s too late, that you realize certain people are irreplaceable. The unique essence they bring to your life, the way they understand your soul, and the connection you share cannot be duplicated. No matter how many new faces you meet, the bond you had with that one special person—be it a friend, a partner, or even a mentor—was singular. And losing that connection leaves an imprint that no one else can fill. It’s only when they’re gone that the weight of their absence truly sinks in, and the harsh truth hits: the same person does not come twice in a lifetime.

We often hurt those closest to us without fully realizing the magnitude of the damage. In moments of frustration, anger, or pride, we say things, do things, or fail to do things that cut deeply into the hearts of those who care about us. And we assume that apologies, time, or distance will heal everything, that life will go on, and there will always be another chance to make things right. But what if there isn’t? What if the person you hurt is the one whose presence you’ll never be able to replace? The one whose laughter, whose love, whose companionship was meant to walk with you through life’s trials and joys? The truth is, not everyone is replaceable. Some souls touch ours in ways that forever change us, and to lose them is to lose a piece of ourselves.

Be careful who you hurt.

There’s a reason this warning feels so profound. Hurting someone isn’t just about breaking trust or causing momentary pain; it’s about altering the course of a relationship that may never recover. And while we often think we have time to mend what’s broken, the reality is that sometimes, we don’t. Time doesn’t always heal; sometimes, it only widens the gap between two hearts that once beat in sync. The wounds we inflict in moments of carelessness or neglect can run deeper than we imagine. Words said in haste or actions taken in selfishness have a way of echoing in the minds of those we hurt, long after the moment has passed.

Not everyone will give you another chance. Not everyone will be there waiting for you to come to your senses, to apologize, to grow. Some people, once they’ve been hurt, once they feel betrayed or unloved, will quietly walk away. And when you realize what you’ve lost, it will be too late. The space they occupied in your life will remain, but their presence, their light, their love, will be gone. You’ll search for them in others, but you’ll never find the same soul, the same connection, the same magic.

So, be mindful of your words. Be intentional with your actions. Recognize the people who truly matter in your life and treat them with the care they deserve. Love them fully while they’re still within your reach, because one day, you may realize just how rare they are—and by then, they might be gone. Life is fleeting, and relationships are fragile. Don’t let pride, ego, or carelessness ruin something beautiful.

~ Diana Hidayat 💛🥀

She's Different

This one she's just different. She's different than the rest. She's different, because she's real. She's different, because she's unfiltered, and unguarded. She's different, because she's unafraid -she's unafraid to put herself out there. She's unafraid of being an open book. And she's unafraid to show the world who she truly is. She's different, because she's original. She's different, because she's unique and authentic. She's different, because she mixes craziness with class, and confidence with vulnerability. She's different, because she's wild, and she's funny. She's different, because she's free, she's unbothered, she's unaffected and she doesn't care about your opinion. She's different, because she's in love with who she's becoming, and she's in love with where she's going. This one-she's just different. She's different in so many ways. And if you're lucky enough to be the man who walks beside her, she will give you a whole different perspective on life.

~ Author Unknown 

The Beauty in Writing

When she didn't know what else to do, she would write, because to her it was so much more than a blank page to scribble down some words. It was an invitation to let her heart speak. A space where she could express her soul. A faithful friend that would always listen. A portal where she could release her past. A record of a moment that had shaped who she was. An expression of her heart captured in time. A way to reach out to all the people she'd once been. A chance to share glimmers of wisdom from the things that she'd seen. A journey into feeling crafted by her words, an outpouring of love from her heart to theirs. It was her therapy, her healing, her passion and her offering. An alchemical process creating beauty out of suffering 💖

~ Emily Jane

Cherish the Good Man

 

"Some men will walk into your life and change everything for you, give you another reason to live. Keep them close.

They'll challenge you in ways you never thought possible, pushing you to be stronger, braver, and more aligned with your true self. These men see the best in you, even when you can't.

They remind you of your potential and inspire you to reach for it, giving you the courage to break through limitations you once held as truths.

When these men enter your life, they don't just offer companionship, they bring stability. You feel safe in their presence, knowing they'll hold you in moments of weakness without judgment. Their touch, their words, and even their silences offer healing. They don't rush your growth, but patiently walk alongside you as you evolve, supporting you with unwavering faith.

These men don't shy away from your complexities; they embrace every layer. They honor your story-the battles you've fought and the dreams you've yet to pursue. They don't try to change you but rather celebrate who you are at your core, reminding you that you are enough exactly as you are. It's through this acceptance that you begin to heal deeper parts of yourself.

They will inspire you to dream bigger and love harder. With them, love feels like a safe space to explore your vulnerabilities. You'll find yourself opening up in ways you haven't before, trusting that they will hold your heart with care. These men understand the power of emotional intimacy, knowing it's the foundation for a lasting, meaningful connection.

In their presence, you'll learn to trust again-not just in others but in yourself. They help restore your faith in love, in goodness, and in the possibility of creating a life filled with joy and connection. Their belief in you allows you to rebuild your own belief in what's possible.

They are the kind of men who take the time to truly know you, not just your surface-level desires but the dreams you hold in the quiet corners of your heart. They are curious about what lights you up and what keeps you up at night, always striving to understand you on a deeper level.

Their love isn't just in the grand gestures; it's in the little things. It's in the way they remember the details, the way they listen when you speak, the way they show up even when it's inconvenient for them. Their consistency is their promise, a reminder that they are here for the long haul.

With these men, you'll feel seen in a way that's rare. You won't have to hide parts of yourself or pretend to be someone you're not. In fact, they'll encourage you to bring out even more of who you truly are. Their love gives you the freedom to be authentically you.

So when such a man enters your life, cherish him. Understand that what you've found is rare and sacred. Keep him close, not because he completes you, but because he complements you in the most profound ways. He's the kind of man who makes the journey of life feel a little lighter, and the love between you feel like home."

-Siralak Colon